We have a choice to react in a well or bad way to things said or done to us. Our responsibility isn't for what someone has to say to us we are responsible for our own reactions no matter what may happen.
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. (Proverbs 15:18 ) The wisdom in Proverbs guides us on how to deal with being angered by a person or a situation.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1 ESV)
Remember that old saying "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all?" That's a great statement and is complemented by the above Proverbs. No matter what's been done the accountability is on us. We are responsible for our selves and I believe personally if we make the decision to not be accountable we reap what's sown from our actions and reactions.
God loves us and wants us to be representatives of Him. How we carry ourselves is a sure example of how we feel about ourselves internally. Even if you don't serve God you still have an accountability to yourself to respect yourself and own up to things that you say and do, which we all will give an account for at the day of Judgment.
Offspring of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart brings out good things; and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings out evil things. But I say to you that every idle word, whatever men may speak, they shall give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you shall be justified, and by your words you shall be condemned. (Matthew 12:34-37 MKJV)
So, if we aren't holding ourselves accountable and we will not allow others too as well we are not maturing and allowing ourselves to be corrected in love and concern.
Thank you Lord for showing me this for myself I pray that I will learn to react better to those things that I face, for your honor and glory in Jesus name Amen.